One of my New Year’s Resolution (I have a few) is to “unplug”. It’s great how technology has revolved… like, I bet all our grandparents wouldn’t have ever believed that you could be out and about listening to the radio when the walkman was invented. My kids don’t even know what beepers and walkmans are! (I’m officially old.)
So since my hubby deployed, my daughter and I have turned into relentless couch bums — especially my daughter because she was on winter recess and is very attached to all the TVs in the house. She usually loves playing outside though, so I am grateful about that. She does spend a lot of time outdoors being unconnected from electronics, but at home it’s either the TV or her tablet.
One of the things that people don’t do much of anymore is spend actual time with each other — like, sitting together on the couch streaming Netflix is NOT quality time, sorry (I don’t care what those stupid posts say)! I remember I used to love doing jigsaw puzzles, and I especially remember the toy commercials during the holidays when I was a kid (even the commercials were better back in the day!).
I am sure every generation feels that theirs were the best as a new generation forms; the “good old days” weren’t always so good, but we quickly forget that when the current society seems so overloaded and chaotic. Baby Boomers have JFK, the 60’s, Civil Rights… Generation X had the year 2000, 9/11, the War on Terrorism, and one major f**ked up presidential election in Florida ballots (I still believe Gore would have been president if the Supreme Court hadn’t stopped the recount). Millennials have the iPhone, the cyber world, the first black First Family… and now Generation Z, who are already making their own history with events like the March For Our Lives movement, #metoo, #timesup… and their history is being lived now.
But I digress…
One of the things Ava and I have done a lot lately is play traditional games. We have chess (but I am too serious about chess to play it “just for fun”, although I should teach her how to play it because I can play it all day long); we have checkers (but I don’t care for it much); we have Connect4 (which I’m also not crazy about because I basically used to play tic-tac-toe on a piece of paper in school); we have Clue (which we haven’t even opened yet because it’s like one of the most complicated directions for children to play); and we have Uno, Guess Who?, and Hedbanz.
We play Uno and Guess Who? a lot. Hedbanz is more fun with a group, and we played that with our guests on Christmas Eve. Guess Who? is a great game because only two people can play it, and sometimes it’s hard to play other games that are more fun with a group, so two-player games are always a bonus. During Christmas, I was gifted two Jenga sets (yeah, separate people bought me Jenga, WTF!?! — I am obviously going to re-gift one of them); and I expanded our board games so we’d have traditional fun entertainment.
I bought the Game of Life (the pets edition), Twister (great as a kids’ party game), Pop the Pig, and Candy Land.
Okay, I have to say though, I’m not too crazy about each new version of Life. That game has been around since forever, and has been updated every decade at least. The game (to me) used to be more realistic; now it’s like you’re never in debt (false!), you get to choose a career or college degree first, you get to buy/sell a house, and everyone reaches a mansion or a country ranch during retirement… like, they turned the Game of Life into a Disney princess ending! (Thank God for chess!)
I’m going to model my social media behavior after my hubby, which is essentially nonexistent. Seriously, when we started dating, Dan signed up for all these social media apps because I use them and I wanted to connect with him on them (you know, to do things like tag him on photos, make others envious of our Facebook life, etc.) — trust me when I tell you that most people who are very secure and confident (as well as genuinely successful) almost are never active on social media.
Now I know that sounds hypocritical for me to write, since I’m all over social media — but I’m definitely lacking in security and confidence (and so is Trump, that guy uses Twitter like a teen… he’s in his freaking 70’s, walkmans weren’t even invented yet when he was born!)… again, I digress. I definitely would not be able to unplug 100%, but I could try to cut it down to where I’m not constantly updating my status and scrolling my screen.
I think what I love the most about my husband is that he’s such a private guy. He never posts anything and he never even checks Facebook or messenger; like, I had to tell him to log in so that he would approve all his pending friend requests. I also feel like his lack of social media activity makes him very mature. It shows confidence in himself, because the era of social media is to basically get approval from others. You’re posting because you want others to see your life, hear your thoughts, know what’s going on — it’s the feeling of being wanted by others.
My hubby is a Millennial. By the time he graduated from college, I had already had my first kid; so I find it very rare that a Millennial like him is still so unplugged. He uses his smartphone for texting and emailing, video calls, music, etc.; but he sincerely has no interest in what’s going on in Facebook’s world, or Instagram, Snapchat, Twitter, etc. — which is also why I think he’s so focused. I read somewhere that people who aren’t active on social media are actually happier than people who are. I believe it!